The Fact About Bullying

The public perception of bullying is that bullies act in their own fears to cover. In fact, they may be afraid, but accepting this as a reason makes bullies sound like victims of their fears - like we're supposed to feel sorry for them and not abuse them accountable for their actions.

The question is not whether the thugs fear. Bullies bully others to feel powerful around and feel the power over them. Bullies zeros begin to feel like one. If intimidate, threaten or hurt someone, they feel like somebody. The key is the feeling of power.

We often think of the child as the bully boy, but the percentage of young people who bully their classmates, siblings has increased dramatically. The harassment does not stop at the end of the school, either. If the offenders are at home, school, or, Aore threaten and intimidate other children on the Internet, which act in order to feel powerful. Many children who are bullies in the school of bullies at home. The most common victims are the innocent brothers and sisters.

What are the consequences of bullying? You may have heard of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in the case of sexual assault or victimization. PTSD can occur at any time people feel they have no control over their pain is delivered. Living with fear, not knowing when it will be hurt. Children who are constantly harassed and protected no symptoms of PTSD - constant fear, constant fear, bizarre behavior to compensate for those feelings. They fall behind in their development.

Dealing with bullies required to be strictly liable for things offensive, derogatory or hurtful they do to feel powerful. They need the means to feel powerful practice - with social skills, their feelings into words, honest communication with others and problem solving. These skills are difficult to develop. It takes work, which, as AOS learn to multiply or to learn to add. But you can do. The celebration of the thugs responsible for the misconduct gives them boundaries and gives them a roadmap to do the job.

If your child is a bully
If your child begins to exhibit bullying behavior, the first thing to do is realize that something has to face. You can not cheat, you go away on their own. As a teen thugs do not stop and can not be taught more appropriate ways to solve problems, become abusive parents, spouses and bosses. We all feel helpless at times, but there are better ways to treat than others to abuse.

You as a parent has a standard set: No excuse for abuse. There is no excuse to curse someone to break something, before touching anyone. The bully is always an excuse, a way to justify this behavior. This justification is so powerful that the place of empathy for the other takes. That the standard AM why no excuses.

A child can curse her sister and say dirty things to her and then make some justification for what he was doing for him - "He went back to my room" or "It would be the computer." Let the child say the excuse, and then repeated: "There is no excuse for abuse." Communication is not disabled, but does not validate the thinking errors involved in the justification for the actions of abuse. There must be consequences for abuse. Later, you can talk properly to a problem.

If your child is being bullied
If your child is being bullied, it may be because he is the type of child who has difficulty standing up for themselves. Thugs looking for easy targets, it makes them feel powerful. If you teach a child not to respond to bullying, walk, bullies are less likely than children again.

The most effective strategies to deal with bullies are "avoid" and "escape". These are things you can teach your children: Do not hate if possible. Away from them, as Aore in your area. If Aore intimidated and it does, including work, you need to get help from someone who has more power than the bully. That had to fight AOT, because someone is an aggressor. Go with someone who is more powerful than the aggressor, as the teacher or the police. Teach your child that he believed that the person responsible. Hit is still in an attack by the school and parents should not, AOT again when that happens. You want the other child, parents AOS down the police station. You want them as uncomfortable as you.

It hurts to be bullied, and this fact should not be minimized. Teachers, parents and school officials are sometimes tempted to say: ". Well, it only happens Aore children." It should not, AOT happen, and it is the responsibility of adults to a healthy environment for our children. The best schools are those that develop a zero tolerance for violence and zero tolerance for bullying, and parents must demand and support it.







At the same time, if your child is experiencing abuse at the hands of another child, this question. "What would you find useful" Find out what your child can be useful to improve the situation here, the AM why this is important. If a child is being bullied at school and their parents only by the situation, which has no power at both ends. encouraging, given the chance to work, offer help and ideas. But know that if it remains a problem and the steps that will be protected.

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