The Fact About Bullying

The public perception of bullying is that bullies act in their own fears to cover. In fact, they may be afraid, but accepting this as a reason makes bullies sound like victims of their fears - like we're supposed to feel sorry for them and not abuse them accountable for their actions.

The question is not whether the thugs fear. Bullies bully others to feel powerful around and feel the power over them. Bullies zeros begin to feel like one. If intimidate, threaten or hurt someone, they feel like somebody. The key is the feeling of power.

We often think of the child as the bully boy, but the percentage of young people who bully their classmates, siblings has increased dramatically. The harassment does not stop at the end of the school, either. If the offenders are at home, school, or, Aore threaten and intimidate other children on the Internet, which act in order to feel powerful. Many children who are bullies in the school of bullies at home. The most common victims are the innocent brothers and sisters.

What are the consequences of bullying? You may have heard of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in the case of sexual assault or victimization. PTSD can occur at any time people feel they have no control over their pain is delivered. Living with fear, not knowing when it will be hurt. Children who are constantly harassed and protected no symptoms of PTSD - constant fear, constant fear, bizarre behavior to compensate for those feelings. They fall behind in their development.

Dealing with bullies required to be strictly liable for things offensive, derogatory or hurtful they do to feel powerful. They need the means to feel powerful practice - with social skills, their feelings into words, honest communication with others and problem solving. These skills are difficult to develop. It takes work, which, as AOS learn to multiply or to learn to add. But you can do. The celebration of the thugs responsible for the misconduct gives them boundaries and gives them a roadmap to do the job.

If your child is a bully
If your child begins to exhibit bullying behavior, the first thing to do is realize that something has to face. You can not cheat, you go away on their own. As a teen thugs do not stop and can not be taught more appropriate ways to solve problems, become abusive parents, spouses and bosses. We all feel helpless at times, but there are better ways to treat than others to abuse.

You as a parent has a standard set: No excuse for abuse. There is no excuse to curse someone to break something, before touching anyone. The bully is always an excuse, a way to justify this behavior. This justification is so powerful that the place of empathy for the other takes. That the standard AM why no excuses.

A child can curse her sister and say dirty things to her and then make some justification for what he was doing for him - "He went back to my room" or "It would be the computer." Let the child say the excuse, and then repeated: "There is no excuse for abuse." Communication is not disabled, but does not validate the thinking errors involved in the justification for the actions of abuse. There must be consequences for abuse. Later, you can talk properly to a problem.

If your child is being bullied
If your child is being bullied, it may be because he is the type of child who has difficulty standing up for themselves. Thugs looking for easy targets, it makes them feel powerful. If you teach a child not to respond to bullying, walk, bullies are less likely than children again.

The most effective strategies to deal with bullies are "avoid" and "escape". These are things you can teach your children: Do not hate if possible. Away from them, as Aore in your area. If Aore intimidated and it does, including work, you need to get help from someone who has more power than the bully. That had to fight AOT, because someone is an aggressor. Go with someone who is more powerful than the aggressor, as the teacher or the police. Teach your child that he believed that the person responsible. Hit is still in an attack by the school and parents should not, AOT again when that happens. You want the other child, parents AOS down the police station. You want them as uncomfortable as you.

It hurts to be bullied, and this fact should not be minimized. Teachers, parents and school officials are sometimes tempted to say: ". Well, it only happens Aore children." It should not, AOT happen, and it is the responsibility of adults to a healthy environment for our children. The best schools are those that develop a zero tolerance for violence and zero tolerance for bullying, and parents must demand and support it.







At the same time, if your child is experiencing abuse at the hands of another child, this question. "What would you find useful" Find out what your child can be useful to improve the situation here, the AM why this is important. If a child is being bullied at school and their parents only by the situation, which has no power at both ends. encouraging, given the chance to work, offer help and ideas. But know that if it remains a problem and the steps that will be protected.

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Helping your child to deal with bullying

Bullying is a common experience for many children and adolescents. Surveys show that nearly half of all children being bullied at some time during their school years, and at least 10% are regularly bullied. Bullying behavior can be physically or verbally. Males tend to be physical intimidation or threats, regardless of the gender of their victims to use. The harassment of girls is more often verbal, usually with another girl as the target. Recently, even bullying reported in the online chat rooms and e-mail. Children who are bullied experience real suffering that can interfere with social and emotional development and school performance.

Some victims of bullying have even attempted suicide rather than continue to face prosecution and punishment. Children and adolescents who bully thrive on controlling or dominating others. They are often victims of physical violence or bullying themselves. Bullies may also feel depressed, angry or upset about events at school or at home. Children targeted by bullies also tend to fit a certain profile. Bullies often choose children who are passive, easily intimidated, or have few friends. Victims may also be smaller or younger, and are more difficult to defend. If you suspect that your child is bullying others, it is important to look for him or her to help as quickly as possible.  

Without intervention, bullying can lead to serious academic, social, emotional and legal. Talk to your child's pediatrician, teacher, director, school counselor or doctor. If the harassment continues, a comprehensive evaluation by a child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health services be established. The evaluation can help you and your child understand what is causing the bullying, and help you develop a plan to stop the destructive behavior. If you suspect that your child is a victim of bullying ask him to tell what's going on. You can help by providing many opportunities to talk with you openly and honestly. It is also important to respond positively and acceptance. Let your child know it's not their fault, and that he or she was right to tell you. 

Other specific suggestions include the following: 
* Ask your child what he or she thinks should be done. What has been tried? What works and why not?  
* Seek help from a teacher of your child or school counselor. Most bullying occurs on playgrounds, in lunchrooms and bathrooms, on school buses or monitoring rooms. Ask school to find out about programs other schools and communities have used to combat bullying, such as peer mediation, conflict resolution, anger management training and help, and more adult supervision.  
* Do not encourage your child to defend themselves. Instead, they suggest that he or she tries to run away to avoid the bully or seek help from a teacher, coach or other adult.  
* Help your child practice what to tell the bully that he or she be prepared next time. 
* Help your child to be assertive. Just insist that the bully leave him alone a surprising effect. Explain to your child that the bully true purpose is to achieve a response.  
* Encourage your child to travel with friends to and from school, while shopping or other outings. Bullies are less likely to choose a child in a group. If your child is withdrawn, depressed or reluctant to go to school, or if you see a decline in school performance, additional consultation or intervention may be necessary. A child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health services can help your child and family and school to tackle bullying strategy development. Seek professional help before you run the risk of lasting emotional consequences for your child to decrease. 
 

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